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The Widowhood │ On the Eve of My 40th Birthday Weekend
I remember the days leading up to my 30th birthday. I had just gotten home from Chicago, having attained topic approval for my dissertation for my PhD. I was living with Phil at the shore and for the most part, life was pretty together, but I was totally freaked out about that milestone birthday. I…
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The Widowhood │When the After Isn’t Forever Either
I follow a lot of young widows on social media. In the early days, it was how I got through the hard stuff. I would watch them and think that God has a plan for me and the kids and that in the end, we were going to be happy again. I did not have…
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The Widowhood │ Nighttime Reflections
I was 27 years old when I met my husband. I was 37 years old when I was burying him. Three kids, two houses, all of Europe, most of the East coast and a whirlwind of life later, I was alone again. I had met him on a blind date. A coworker of mine had…
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The Hart Home│I Am a Widow Now
I am 37 years old. And I am a widow. If you had asked me a month ago what I thought this year would look like I would have told you about the several college classes I was teaching, my book deal, the trip to Disney World that my husband had pushed to book for…
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The Hart Home│Why I Didn’t Marry Until My 30’s
I think the simplest reason why I put off marriage and even getting engaged until I was almost 30 was that I wanted to keep my 20’s for myself. At my core, I am very artistic and I am a dreamer. I have so many dreams of what I want to do and where I…
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We Did It!
We were married on November 17, 2017 at the church that I grew up in. Then, we got to dance the night away and eat French food. It was all such a dream. I will update more once life settles down a bit. I’m in the middle of finals now.
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Seasons of Your Life
Women are different then men. We think differently, we respond to the world differently, we approach life differently and more even more noticeably, we age differently. For men, I think life is a long continuous line of experiences and outcomes. They are born, they grow, they become old and they pass on. Women, of course,…
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Away We Go: Where Life Puts You Down
There’s this Ben Okri quote in The Famished Road, a really great book that I read from the optional reading list when I took Art of West Africa as an undergraduate student at Rutgers. It say, “This is what you must be like. Grow wherever life puts you down.” As a clueless 20-something at the time, I…
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Let’s Skip the Honeymoon
Is a honeymoon mandatory? I would think not, but as I began to plan my wedding, I realized how quickly people were willing to give you both solicited, but really mainly their unsolicited advice and opinions on what you should do on your day. We had been dating for 2 1/2 years when Phil had asked me to…
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Dallas & the Seasons of My Life
I’ve spent the last week decompressing from being in Dallas, Texas for much of last week. I was there for my final doctoral residency. Once I got out of the Dallas Fort Worth airport, I was immediately reminded of what I hated about Texas the most: the heat and humidity. The last time I had…
